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I make this blog for every fresh graduates in the world, but I'd like to dedicate this blog for all beloved Indonesian fresh graduates. I still remember the first day coming into the real world, I stumble and fall, I win and cry - I'd love to share all the experiences and love to hear the other fresh grads story too. So I make it for all of us, the better us! Happy reading, and happy sharing.

Don’t Think Just Do

The title sound shallow as a tips.

But it actually a very good tips for you whom spend too much time thinking, analyzing, dwelling in thoughts rather than being out there and taking some actions.

In your very first day in the office, you will feel overwhelmed; a lot of jargon that you don’t know, a lot of number that not make any sense, a lot of people/stakeholders that you don’t understand.

Too many times, fresh grads will spend too much time overthink of something. You feel hesitant to ask, you feel silly for not able to contribute in meeting, and when you say something you are unsure & afraid that your suggestion is wrong…

Well, the overall tips, sometimes you don’t need to overthink something, just do it first. If later, you find that you do a mistake, then fix it. Its your only time to do the mistake in your first month, first three months. Its ok to learn from mistake, you are not expected to be a superhuman.

again, Don’t overthink it! sometimes you just need to do it first. Action speak louder than your plan/fear/thought.

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Survival Tips: Conquer your first Team meeting/Tasks

I still remember my very first days in the office.

I was so anxious at that time. I felt insecure, dumb, knew nothing, couldn’t contribute anything and I tried anything I could.

Enrolled myself to one of most prestigious Management Trainee Program in country, I tried to ensure myself that I won’t failed. I tried to impress people.

With all of those things I mentioned above in mind, I tried hard. Too hard probably is better words 😀 😀

I sometime asked too many questions, I sometime too afraid to ask questions (depend on the audience)

I tried to look smart, perfect like I had no weaknesses. I rarely asked for help as I will feel stupid if I did so. I tried to solve everything myself, I tried to make the most sophisticated long proposal and research.

And you know what? the result is nothing! Nothing but you learn yourself that professional world is different with your Uni world that you don’t need to act perfect, you don’t need to be smartest to perform.

Looking back (read: looking at some fresh grads in office right now) ; I laugh.

Not because I want to laugh at you, but I laugh at the patterns. How similar it is.

I tell you the 5 important survival tips on your very first days working:

1. Don’t try to be smartest, because you won’t be one in professional environment. There will be hundreds of people who already worked in the company even before you born to the world. So you can’t be smartest, and its ok not to be one.

2. Don’t afraid to say “I don’t know” – you are new. Its ok to know nothing and answer “I don’t know, I’ll look forward for the answers and come back to you later.”

3. Don’t afraid to ask for help, its ok to let people help you; but then don’t always expect everyone spoon feeding you, just look for necessary information to survive.

4. Don’t try to deliver perfect task/presentation/data in your first attempt! Don’t wait until its perfect to have a discussion with your superior or boss! it will wasting too much time! You will never get A+ or 100 score in professional world. Such thing does not exist here! You need to brainstorm to get a good result, not to mentioned that it can be challenged further by other people. and its ok, as long as you are heading there.

5. Don’t try to do everything at the same time. One little steps at the time. Chances are you become Yes man while you are overwhelmed. Always ask what is the expectation on the output and timeline. But then, don’t be lazy and expect you are getting your salary for only attending trainings and expecting your manager to lecture you everything about the tasks.

Hopefully the tips are helpful!

The Profesional World is not Always About You

A piece of advise that I always give to first week fresh graduates is: “Its not always about you.”

What the hell does it mean? read on..

Fresh graduates, from the day you were born until your graduation day, the major theme of your life is “Me!” ; every decision you make mostly will be about you yourself, or about your family or neighborhood. Even if you claimed that you do something big for the world by doing CSR or making newest technology for people in the world, you always start to begin everything with you at the centre of your life (I am not talking about religion here, please don’t go to the discussion about God at the centre of your life..)

One thing that you need to realize when you want to join professional world is : You sell Yourself to the company! — its not slavery or you sell your freedom or something. But you do sell your potential to company, you do pick the company who can help you grow and learn about bigger world, you do sell your skills to help the company grow as well.

So the first day when you decide to join a professional , please consciously remind yourself: BE PROFESSIONAL!!

What does it mean to be professional? it means.. Don’t take everything personally. Its not always about you.

I give you one example…

On your very first few weeks.. Normally you will be assigned to meet some people, some more senior people- whom you don’t know. You need to meet them, either to get on board or get some datas, or following up several things.

When you come to them, there are so many scenarios that can happen, including this:

You try to catch them up somewhere between their meetings, you come to their desk, and when you try to speak to them, they seems very busy and you wait beside their desk while you gather all of your gut to speak to them : “Excuse Ma’am/Sir, my name is ……..; I am new intern and I need your time to…..” there is a chance that they are staring at you and directly ask : “Ya?” with the rolling eyes and say “Can’t speak now” with ignorance and staring back their desktop/laptop.

And there is bigger chance to feel ruined at that time. You often feel unappreciated or you feel small and nothing compare to their job or you try to think what you did wrong until they treated you that way.

Don’t take it personally, at that point of time.. its the right time to think: “its not about me; they are facing tough days or they are finishing urgent items.”

You will face this kind of events more and more often. Sometime you feel the proposal you made is not appreciated, or no one really hear you, or you are treated unfair. Well, it is an organization, don’t expect it to be as warm as your family, don’t expect it give you a free lunch everyday your whole life.

I am not trying to say that all companies are cold or cruel, it is just the way it is. It will make any decisions that it thinks best for the business in longer terms; just like us. So don’t take it personally, don’t infiltrate everything to your heart or life. Its not about you, its professional world.

The Most Important Question in Your Life

Everybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.

Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.

If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything.

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you’ve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence — but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.

Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship — but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle. They settle and wonder “What if?” for years and years and until the question morphs from “What if?” into “Was that it?” And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, “What was that for?” if not for their lowered standards and expectations 20 years prior, then what for?

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life.

At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle. It’s negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire but by what bad feelings we’re willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

People want an amazing physique. But you don’t end up with one unless you legitimately appreciate the pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating and calibrating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny plate-sized portions.

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.

People want a partner, a spouse. But you don’t end up attracting someone amazing without appreciating the emotional turbulence that comes with weathering rejections, building the sexual tension that never gets released, and staring blankly at a phone that never rings. It’s part of the game of love. You can’t win if you don’t play.

What determines your success isn’t “What do you want to enjoy?” The question is, “What pain do you want to sustain?” The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.

There’s a lot of crappy advice out there that says, “You’ve just got to want it enough!”

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren’t aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want “enough.”

Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand.

If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.

Sometimes I ask people, “How do you choose to suffer?” These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?

That answer will actually get you somewhere. It’s the question that can change your life. It’s what makes me me and you you. It’s what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together.

For most of my adolescence and young adulthood, I fantasized about being a musician — a rock star, in particular. Any badass guitar song I heard, I would always close my eyes and envision myself up on stage playing it to the screams of the crowd, people absolutely losing their minds to my sweet finger-noodling. This fantasy could keep me occupied for hours on end. The fantasizing continued up through college, even after I dropped out of music school and stopped playing seriously. But even then it was never a question of if I’d ever be up playing in front of screaming crowds, but when. I was biding my time before I could invest the proper amount of time and effort into getting out there and making it work. First, I needed to finish school. Then, I needed to make money. Then, I needed to find time. Then… and then nothing.

Despite fantasizing about this for over half of my life, the reality never came. And it took me a long time and a lot of negative experiences to finally figure out why: I didn’t actually want it.

I was in love with the result — the image of me on stage, people cheering, me rocking out, pouring my heart into what I’m playing — but I wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it. Repeatedly. Hell, I didn’t even try hard enough to fail at it. I hardly tried at all.

The daily drudgery of practicing, the logistics of finding a group and rehearsing, the pain of finding gigs and actually getting people to show up and give a shit. The broken strings, the blown tube amp, hauling 40 pounds of gear to and from rehearsals with no car. It’s a mountain of a dream and a mile-high climb to the top. And what it took me a long time to discover is that I didn’t like to climb much. I just liked to imagine the top.

Our culture would tell me that I’ve somehow failed myself, that I’m a quitter or a loser. Self-help would say that I either wasn’t courageous enough, determined enough or I didn’t believe in myself enough. The entrepreneurial/start up crowd would tell me that I chickened out on my dream and gave in to my conventional social conditioning. I’d be told to do affirmations or join a mastermind group or manifest or something.

But the truth is far less interesting than that: I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story.

I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.

Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.

This is not a call for willpower or “grit.” This is not another admonishment of “no pain, no gain.”

This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes. So choose your struggles wisely, my friend.

taken from: Mark Manson.net

Bill Gates’s Advise for Graduates

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it!

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now.… They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

Surviving your post College Crisis

Graduation is an exciting time – it also signals the end of every life structure you’ve ever known.

I’m not going to lie, your first couple years out of college are going to be tough. You’re being expected not only to make it on your own (a struggle in itself) but to do so in one of the most turbulent economic times in recent memory. Combine this with the host of changes that most folks forget to warn you about and you’ve got some rough seas to navigate by anyone’s standards.

While nothing I say is going to offer any escapes or immediate and painless solutions to these problems, just knowing what’s ahead and being able to articulate what it is that’s driving us crazy should do us all a world of good.

Let me break it down for you here.

Loss of Community

Community is something we generally take for granted and never truly appreciate until we’ve left it behind. Our individual networks of family, friends, and peers help give us a sense of belonging. Heck, even our rivals and antagonists help us realize, that for good or bad, we’re at least something to someone.

Most of that is going to be going out the window once you strike out on your own.

Yes, social media helps us stay in touch with our communities, but as you’ll quickly discover, they’re no replacement for the real thing. You will be for the first time completely on your own, and probably not ready for the sheer baffling anonymity you’ll be experiencing in the first few months. Even the most adventurous of us are going to have to grapple with a very real sense of isolation. For those of you moving from a small town to a major city you can expect this feeling to hit you especially hard, though of course the reverse can be true as well.

As with everything, all the small things start to add up. Even if you’re just moving from one end of town to the other, everything which made home home is still going to be missing. Simple fact of the matter is that being homesick is going to be an inevitable part of growing up.

The good news, however, is that it’s not going to last forever. You will eventually establish yourself, adapt to your surroundings, and, as hard as it is once you’ve left college, even make new friends (Dave Odegard’s article on the subject is a great place to start). It’s going to take effort, but you will overcome it.

Loss of Guidance

Of course, it’s not just familiarity and self-identity that you’re leaving behind but the general support that comes along with it. Even the most fiercely independent can only be so prepared- truth is you’re going to be thrown a curveball almost every day. I know in myfirst couple of years I was constantly (and still am) running up against questions like “Am I getting swindled where I’m taking my car in for repairs?”, “Am I filling out this tax form correctly?”, “Should I try to contest my ticket in traffic court or should I just pay the fine?”, and “Is it worth trying to stand up to my boss on this one issue?”. Things so utterly situational that not all the Google searches in the world would be able to give me a full plan of action; things so basic that I’d feel dumb asking anyone I knew for advice about them.

Again, we’re talking about the past 20 or so years of nonstop development and experience, academic, social and personal, all coming to a sudden, inexplicable halt.

Truth be told, it gets tougher to ask for help once you’ve broken 21. Some of this is due to the people we used to rely on just not being as available as before, but a hefty portion of it is going to boil down to pride. We’re here, after all, to prove ourselves as competent, independent adults capable of surviving on our own. Even with shifts in our culture there’s still a lot of pressure for young people – young men in particular – to blaze their own trail, and the accusations that this generation is “lazy” or “entitled” don’t do much to help.

Embarrassment and shame at any failure or weakness, real or imagined, prevent us from seeking out the help or correction we need, and perhaps that’s ultimately why these comparatively small annoyances and issues wind up giving us so much grief. We’re suddenly dealing with them completely on our own with little or no recourse.

And that’s just another painful but integral part of growing up: Having your pride broken over and over. As much as that’s going to sting, it’s still less painful than having to learn things the hard way. Bite the bullet and realize that your pride will heal.

Loss of Direction

As crazy as life seemed before you headed out on your own, you could nevertheless count on having milestones all around to help you get your bearings. Be they mid-terms or sophomore year or your driver’s license or drinking age (at long last), you always had an idea on where you stood as a young adult. You could concretely tell what you had completed so far and what was up ahead of you.

Don’t be expecting that to be true once you’re out of college.

Yes, we do still have certain boxes left to check off – a house, a family, kids – but more and more it’s becoming nebulous just exactly when you should have those taken care of (and that’s only if you need to take care of them at all). The simple fact of the matter is that you’re going to be very suddenly left with nothing (and no one) to mark your progress (whatever that might be).

For some people that’s going to be a relief, but honestly, for most of us that’s going to be quite jarring. Today it’s a question of taking a job that we can survive on, not one related to our major or whatever career plans we used to have. When every month just comes down to paying your bills it can definitely feel like you’re just stagnating.

Of course, that’s just for those of us who even have a particular long-term goal in mind, something the economy doesn’t exactly lend itself to. And with no way of “measuring” yourself, you might fall into thinking that there’s just nothing there to measure. In addition to those feelings of isolation and helplessness, hopelessness (I don’t think that’s too strong of a word) can be a danger as well.

Again, this is something we’re going to grow out of. One way or another we’re going to carve out a sense of purpose in life, it’s just going to take a little while for that to happen. In the meanwhile though, set a goal, any goal, for yourself. Working out, reading more, hammering out that novel – if nothing else, the simple act of progressing towards something will help keep you sharp while you try to endure this trying time. When the smoke clears, you’ll be able to emerge from the battle stronger and more capable than when you entered.

Loss of Compulsion

Even while it’s a temporary state, when we’re left without a destination to move towards a lot of us will just give up trying to move at all. Continued development (academic, social, and personal) can often become neglected. I’ve mentioned that we can combat this through self-discipline and perseverance, but of course what makes this easiest (heck, inevitable) is just having friends.

Think about it. How many things do you do or appreciate today that you were introduced to first by friends or acquaintances? How many places that you wound up having fun at were places your buddies first had to drag you to? Even the bad experiences which you got pushed into by your peer group were probably experiences that still developed you. The sports you played, the interests you developed, the trouble you got into – how much of that was directly a result of you having friends? I’d even guess that most of your habits, good and bad alike, were deeply influenced by the people who you associated yourself with. Again, we’re talking about the past 20 or so years of nonstop development and experience, academic, social and personal, all coming to a sudden, inexplicable halt.

Involvement with other people, whether you bond with them or not, is still important to helping you keep building yourself. It’s probably the last thing you want to hear after a long day of hard or thankless work, but consider volunteering somewhere. Find yourself a commitment to drag you out into the world every day and keep you experiencing new things.

I’m seeing too many of us, when faced with the isolation, chaos, and stagnation that these losses bring, try to opt for grad school or the military, or a program like the Peace Corps. I get why these are tempting, and don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying they aren’t noble pursuits. I’m just seeing too many of my peers enrolling or joining up for the wrong reasons, and failing to understand that ducking these issues for four years isn’t going to make these problems disappear. As painful and confusing as these losses are, they areessential to our growth, and the simple awareness of that, if nothing else, is going to help you through it. Plant your flag, draw your line in the sand, and remember always that you’re not soldiering through this alone.

Taken from: http://www.primermagazine.com/2014/live/surviving-your-post-college-crisis

5 Things I Learned Since College I Wish I Knew Senior Year

Life after graduation will change you, and the lessons learned in this period will be some of the hardest to grasp.

When we look back on our years at college, most of us remember fondly all the great things—parties, brushes with romance, late nights with new friends—that made us who we are today. We may have done some things that we’re not particularly proud of (fire extinguisher fights), but college was all at once a formative experience that taught us things we might have never known otherwise.

Whether you graduated by a hair or approached the podium as valedictorian, those years changed all of us. If we could all go back to our senior-year selves, we’d tell them that everything is going to be OK. Then we’d buy them a drink, sit them down and tell them to shut up and listen because what we’re going to tell them will change them forever.

1. Take Your Time

Not just on tests or drinks—take your time in life. We’re on this mortal coil for a pretty limited time, so stop. Maybe just for a few hours or even just a second to take in what exactly is happening to you.

“You’re going to graduate, end up covering county fairs in a city upstate for a newspaper and live in a one-bedroom apartment without internet and drink an entire bottle of Chardonnay every night after this, Gin,” I’d say.

That’s just the thing. When we’re seniors, we’re ready to be “done.” We say “I’m so done with this place” or the like. But think about when you said that. Your senior year would be a montage of standing near a billiards table, craft beer in your hand, telling some of your best friends that you can’t wait to get out.

“Savor this moment,” I’d say. “Because you might never have it again.”

Therein lies a lesson for us all. We aren’t necessarily guaranteed fun after we leave college. Hell, we’re not even guaranteed a damn job when we leave college, so take any second to unwind, any minute to catch up with someone, and any hour of solitude with the utmost appreciation of what’s happening. Because, man, when you’re in an office all day, you’re liable to forget what a summer breeze feels like.

2. Someone is Always Going to Work Harder Than You

No matter what, someone somewhere will do what you do better. Not because they’re talented, but they’ll succeed because they just work harder than you. And if there isn’t someone who’s better, how would you know?

Your pride might not come before a fall, but it will come before you send out resumes all over the country. And the phone doesn’t ring. And you end up laying in bed, staring at the ceiling wondering why no one wants to even bother calling you back.

Our growth does not end after college. A diploma is not an incision that cuts off circulation to our growth as people. And if you treat it like that, you’re condemning yourself to a dead-end life. You can’t let yourself think your college years will be the best of your life and sentence yourself to slouch through the rest of time. Just getting by worked in college, sure, but the most “competition” you had to go through with fellow classmates and peers was waking up early enough to register for a class before it filled.

“You will meet someone who intimidates you with his or her skill,” I’d say. “And you will feel like a complete idiot that you never showed this craft you supposedly love so much the care and attention you know in your heart it deserves.”

Then I’d buy senior-year me another drink.

3. You Are Your Only True Advocate

A word-of-mouth endorsement can only get you so far. You have to prove yourself in any and every way possible.

There have been a lot of people who have done their damndest to try to help me. I wholeheartedly appreciate every kind word, every compliment, and every time someone brought my name up. Really.

But it was, as the second item in this piece notes, foolish of me to believe that opportunity would come to me. Coincidences happen, but karma very rarely shows up to your doorstep with a giant cardboard check with “success” written on it.

Work hard and get something to show for it, because in the grand scheme of a lived-out life, what’s a couple years?

“You have to cut your teeth somewhere,” I’d say. “And no, no one really cares about your GPA or scholarships or why you got them.”

4. If You’re Scared, Everyone is Scared

This isn’t about being a hero. It’s about admitting to yourself what you feel—and understanding that you’re not alone.

Had I been at my graduation ceremony, I can only imagine how terrifying it’d be. We’d toss our hats up in the air, yell, and—well, then what? We might have went out and partied for a while, threw a couple back, told stories of our exploits—and then what?

Everyone at that moment is feeling just as you are. Everyone in that class feels that itch, that terror, and that wonder at “Holy shit, is college seriously over?”

You don’t necessarily have to cower in the shadow of your dreams, but understand that even that one acquaintance of yours who got a big-time job in New York is scared. Life changes nearly every day, but when you graduate, you move into an entirely different time in your life. It isn’t a new chapter as much as it is a new book in the same series.

So admit it.

When you get it all out, you come out the other end collected, and you’re ready to move on to the first step toward moving forward. Isn’t that all that life is? We’re all moving toward a terminus, and we can’t realistically stop the trek. The least we can do is try to make the ride comfortable.

Move forward with a clear conscience and work toward where you need to be—no matter how slow you go, always move forward.

5. A Good Friend Makes Any Endeavor Worth It

As we get older, our chances of finding a really good friend feels like it diminishes. But if you graduated college with one true friend with whom you still talk and meet occasionally, it makes college worth more.

Who else is going to remember that time you punched through a screen door, attempted to drink an entire jug—yes, a jug—of wine, played NBA Jam while swigging straight bourbon, sang a three-part harmony through a shitty flip phone to a mutual friend, or just all those quiet moments leaning back in cracked white plastic patio furniture, listening to the world, and just wondering when you’ll experience something memorable in college.

Those are the moments. Those seemingly fleeting, worthless, just-another-Saturday-night hours are what bring us together. A friend who experienced it all with you makes every test, every late night, every weekend mean so much more.

Those are the good old days. But make no mistake, there are plenty of good new days ahead.

It’d be at this point that senior-year Gin would stare out the window, order another drink and suddenly realize that, for him, today—no matter how seemingly mundane—is the type of good day 25-year-old Gin smiles about when he remembers. And 25-year-old Gin would slap him on his back and clear his throat.

“C’mon, buddy, I know what’ll cheer you up,” 25-year-old Gin would say. “Let’s go get a six-pack and watch that YouTube video of Nicolas Cage yelling you love so much.”

taken from: http://www.primermagazine.com/2014/live/5-things-i-learned-since-college-i-wish-i-knew-senior-year